Managing Teen-anger

Teen-anger  Management

  
  When a teen suffers from a mental pressure and behaves going out of his/ her normal patience level, is considered as teen’s anger. It is nothing but a status of stressful mind of a teen. When a teen is angry, he/ she behaves going out of discipline and good manners. They may be totally a silent or a shouting or crying one and full of much aggression, depression or negative feelings.

Major reasons of a teen’s anger:

a) When both the parents and children disagree from each other.

b) When they are having a lot of negative emotions and thoughts.

c) When they are continuously misunderstood or miss-communicated.

d) When they think that they have been punished without reasons or in place of others.

e) When they are ashamed before others.

f) When the parents become demanding.

g) When the parents are unable to understand their hearty emotions, feelings or thoughts.

h) When the teens have not been taught or guided how to follow the discipline rules, good manners and etiquette measures.

i) When the parents are unable to handle their day-to-day problems due to lack of time or active efforts.

Handling pre-circumstances of teen- anger

It’s a most important task of a parent to analyse the pre-circumstances of teens’ to normalize them when they are about to be anger. Leading some valuable steps, a parent can stay their teens cool and even out of anger for all time.

            As a parent, when you feel that your teen is totally silent or shouting more, going out of their normal patience level or presenting more tantrums, it’s a time for you to talk to him/ her just now.

What to do?

• If you don’t know the problem or you are fully unaware from the problem, try to recognize the problem first (with reasons), calmly and tactfully. Make necessary questions only enquiring the situation.
• Listen to your teen, carefully and without interference.
• Follow one-to-one and one-by-one communication system.
• Be calm and cool in all conditions, at least till the teens are out of aggression.
• Talk to them in accurate words paying them full regards.
• Accept your mistake (if any) without hesitation and count their mistakes without extensions. If the fault or faultier is in front of you, don’t try to solve the problem, just then.
• Relax them, no matter how you do this without anger.
• Close the discussion fixing a point of time for the next discussion to analyse the reasons.
• Make a commitment to solve the problem fairly and soon.
• Thinking over the solutions, try to fulfil your commitment as soon as possible. You must consider the consequences of your each solution.
• If the problems are related to your teens’ feelings, thoughts, beliefs or behaviour, give them active time to clear their visions and make them learn new things to avoid new anger-situations.
• You must try to solve your teens’ problems at initial level. Otherwise, no any theory will work, effectively, to solve your teens’ permanent problems.

Tips to calm down your teens, easily:

Don't be anger to calm down your teen

         Don’t try to control your teens when they are angry. You should avoid applying reasoning and deep conversations when you are trying to control your teen’s anger. Always motivate them keeping them cool and cheerful and give them sufficient time to correct and think over the situation that how much they are right or wrong and how they should present themselves,next. You should accept teens' errors, too, in totality and you should never take teens’ anger, personally. You should talk to your teens regularly about their feelings and hidden intentions. Your teens should regularly be taught about self-awareness, self-control and importance of patience and how the adults (like you) become able to control them with the help of these.

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