2 February 2014

Managing Teen-discipline



Managing Teen-discipline

Discipline for Teens:
A teen has always a lot of things to know, understand and learn. These all teens’ efforts need discipline. Discipline, itself, is a combination of different rules and commitments for an adult but for the teens, it is only a process of proper teaching, learning and guidance through the parents. Discipline teaches the teens what is right or wrong to do and; why and how they should do that. Thus, the discipline is just to enable them to have a clear vision for what they do or think for.

Why do the teens break discipline?
  1. First and foremost reason is that they are children, ultimately.
  2. They have not yet observed the right way how to perform, correctly.
  3. If, they have not been guided, taught or/ and motivated, properly.
  4. When, the parents are more aggressive and tempered and rule over them in authoritarian style.
  5. When, the teen is continuously anger, afraid or discouraged.
  6. When, the parents do not share their active time with their teens.
  7. When, the teens are ignored defining rules for in and out of home which is mostly done by the parents.
  8. When, they are not given any choice or option to go on.
  9. When the parents ignore dealing the consequences and facts, what the teens want to do or going to do about. Dealing consequences is always fruitful for the parents because it provides the teen clear visions which motivate them for self discipline.
  10. When, teens’ overall problems are not discussed and settled in time. 
  11. When, parents don’t value their words or commitments and even they speak lies.
  12. If, It is going something wrong with teens out of home and parents are effortless to know so they are unaware.
  13. When a teen has a lot of limitations with unknown reasons.
  14. When, the parents behave impractically and get always out of logic.
  15. When, the teens are made ashamed in front of third person.
Effective ways to keep your teens disciplined:

  • Firstly, a parent should know all about discipline.
  • Parents should not force or compel their teens to follow everything what they say or direct. Dealing consequences is important here with healthy discussion. The discussion with teens always should take place when the teens are calm and in submissive mood.
  • Parents should not lead their teens, unnecessarily. They should always support teens to perform their maximum routine work, independently. And, when they commit mistakes, this is the most appropriate time to guide and teach them what is right and what is wrong.
  •  Parents should always offer the participation of their teens while deciding any limit or rule for them. Participation of teen is must forming acceptable boundary and limits.
  • Parents should provide some alternate options or choices for teens whenever they are supposed doing the same as directed by the parents.
  • Setting teens’ day to day problems is a parent’s most important responsibility. (Which may be of many types or in many levels)? If a parent does not solve or have time to solve these problems timely, it promotes a lot of in-disciplinary acts of teens.         
  • Every parent should promote an ideal communication system among all family
    Ideal communication system
    members where all should be given the rights to convey their ideas, thoughts and suggestions to improve the family environment solving family’s day to day problems.
  • Every parent ought to lead an ideal relation with his/ her spouse. Bad spouse’s relation crashes the whole disciplinary bindings of the family.
  • Every parent loves their kids, similarly but a parent should deal with his/ her every child according to their inherent nature and feelings. An extrovert child is seen more disciplined but an introvert child keeps himself more disciplined.
  • Parents must have some proper short term and long term plans that how they have to guide and teach their teens and deal their problems in any defined or expected situation.

  Six common but most effective tips for you keeping everything under discipline:

  1. Be always positive and open minded.
  2. Deal your kids considering the fact that they are not child for all time.
  3. They have no any secondary parent to save them when you say- “I don’t care”.
  4. Developing your kids up to their independence is more important than bearing and nurturing them, only.
  5. Be more responsible to keep your kids responsible.
  6. Value your each commitment.
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