Correcting Kids' Behaviour

Correcting Kids’ Behaviour

What do the parents expect?

Kids are normally expected to behave well in all conditions. Parents want to keep their kids well mannered and disciplined, all time. This is the reason that is why the kids are essentially punished everywhere almost in all families. Most of the parents believe that every child must learn right from wrong and develop his/ her ability to face wrong to be right.

            Parents generally expect from their young kids that they should respect their parents and elders in all conditions, always. They should be polite, obedient and attentive enough to follow their parents’ directions and views. Unfortunately, these expectations break in due to one sided attempts. And, when the parents observe their kids going through quite differently, they get annoyed and embarrassed.

            On the other hand, the children do not usually mischief or misbehave to harass the parents. Their tantrums, shouting or negligence-attitude have some essential reasons behind their negative behaviour. They may be upset, anxious, angry or depressed doing so. And, when they are punished in these situations, they are unwillingly provoked to behave, negatively. The conditions can be 100% same if the kids are teens.

How can you support your teens to behave well?

who is misbehaving here...? 

As a parent, you must know this fact, at first, punishing the kids regularly make them continuously rude and hard to behave with. And, it is only you who can find better ways avoiding these situations. You can check up these useful guidelines to guide and encourage your all-age kids to improve their complete behaviour (specially your teens’ behaviour).
You will definitely be able to improve your kids' behaviour following these guidelines.

What you should do:

1. Improve and maintain good communication system among all family members: The condition, when all have chance to communicate their views and have patience to listen to all, leads a good communication system in a family. A parent has to have all the information up-to-date to guide better their kids and it needs proper communication. Every parent should use proper words, time, situation, expression and link to communicate their mature-like teens. Sometimes, changing the tone of voice is enough to make the kids aware or to improve the situation.
2. Let your kids enjoy when they are needed for: Many parents don’t care about the mood and circumstances in which their kids need some enjoyable moments or some of them try to control their playing or enjoying time through remote control rather than providing them good time. It affects much on their performance and behaviour. It does not matter how much extra time they have played or enjoyed themselves but how much energetic and active they are for the next, does matter, definitely. I hope you will not commit the same mistake for your kids.
3. Let them feel independence: Managing over-discipline and hard and fast rules is also a major factor of annoyed and undisciplined kids. Over limits and boundaries provoke kids pushing against their limitations. Positive parenting includes right but flexible and appreciable limitation. Regulating Democratic style parenting is necessary to improve your kids’ behaviour.  Kids recognize their world normally by touching, looking at, shaking, tasting and even by eating the things where as the teens keep doing some new experiments. The important part of parenting is to push them against their boundaries to becoming an adult. So, Parents should let their kids feel independence up to the level where they are comfortable to do the things what they can.
4. Your rules and limitations should be clearly defined: Accepting good behaviour by kids requires clearly defined rules and boundaries for them. If parents’ behaviours are not consistent or both the parents and kids are not agreed to follow the rules or the mother and father are differ in their views; these are the conditions when the decided rules and limitations are ignored or rejected by the kids. So, kids’ rules should be simple, clear, well defined but should not be hurdle-like. One most effective rule of a parent is to say stable “No” but it works only when the parent understands the depth of this expression otherwise this ‘No’ is proved useless.
5. Praise your kids when they are praiseworthy: Most of the parents focus to correcting their kids misbehaves. They ignore watching their kids unless they commit any mistake. On the other hand, kids need to feel their parents’ love and attention towards them. So, a parent should not only be conscious to correct their kids but also give them lots of praise when they do something good or praiseworthy. But, these rewards must be paid in form of positive motivation and encouragements rather than giving them any gift item or thing.
6. Let them take some decisions, themselves: You will have heard this add-line, “an idea can change one’s whole life.” The depth of this saying is nothing but to be able to take an awesome decision. Taking good decision is always a difficult part to move on, correctly for all. So, every parent should encourage their kids (according to their age and related task) to take some decisions, themselves. Teens’ self-decision make them more responsible and active to follow their own parts.

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